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Have you been searching for tips on how you stay married or keep your marriage intact?

I have based my marriage on five tips that have helped build my marriage foundation and these tips have stayed intact my seven years of marriage. I will give you a tip a month on how I stay married and hope it works for you.

Tip #1:
1. Bonding with your spouse and making them a priority

Marriage is difficult. We tend to put our spouses on the back burner when life and work becomes hectic. However, if we make our spouse a priority and bond with them, we can eliminate the feeling of insecurity and loss of connection. Every spouse wants to feel like they are most important and desires to keep the foundation of a close relationship with their spouse.

The definition of bonding is “a formation of a close relationship especially through frequent or constant association.”

My spouse and I are extremely busy during the week and sometimes only see each other at night for about 10 minutes before one of us falls asleep. We have recognized that the more time we spend apart the more we argue over the little things, which then turn into big things. I am at fault most of the time with making school and work a priority, and not making him a priority during the week. My inability to give us back our connection that we have when we are spending time together plays a HUGE roll in our disagreements.

My Suggestion:  Carve out at least an hour out of your busy schedule to eat dinner with your spouse or just to talk. Making your spouse feel important and bonding with them makes a difference and gives them peace of mind. It will make your week better knowing that you are still connected and dedicating time to them.

Always remember, “If things get tough, remember the journey you started together. Remember why you first fell in love. Don’t give up easily.” – Unknown

Disclaimer:   I am not a counselor. These are just suggestive tips that I have found work for me and my spouse and how we stay married.

During this chapter in your life there is going to be situation that arise during your divorce that you are unsure how to handle or address with your young child or teen. This is a confusing time for your young child or teen with them trying to understand what is happening and what is a divorce, understanding their feelings about the current situation, and coming to terms that the two people they love the most will no longer be under one roof.  Giving your young child or teen available resources to better assistant them with understanding the situation and prepare them for what is two come. Children and teens need reassurance that they are not alone during this time and even though everyone won’t be together in the same home, they still have both parents, and they are loved.

Are you facing a situation at home where you child thinks the divorce is their fault, questioning why they are going to have two homes, or just overall trying to understand what is happening between their parents? As a parent, you want to reassure your child that what currently is progressing is not their fault and give them the knowledge that both parents will continue to spend time with them and love them. Below are a few books for children ranging between the ages of 3 – 12 years old to help them understand why they now have two homes instead of one, releasing that divorce is not their fault, and helping them realize they are not alone.

  • Two Homes

By: Claire Masural (Author) &  Kady MacDonald Denton (Illustrator)

Available on Amazon:

  • Standing on My Own Two Feet: A Child’s Affirmation of Love in the Midst of Divorce

By: Tamara Schmitz

Available on Amazon:

  • When My Parents Forgot How to Be Friends (Let’s Talk About It!)

By: Jennifer Moore-Mallinos (Author) & Marta Fabrega (Illustrator)

Available on Amazon:

  • Living with Mom and Living with Dad

By: Melanie Walsh

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  • Was It the Chocolate Pudding?:A Story For Little Kids About Divorce

By: Sandra Levins and Bryan Langdo

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  • Divorce Is Not the End of the World: Zoe’s and Evan’s Coping Guide for Kids

By: Zoe Stern & Evan Stern

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Teenagers are feeling new emotions called puberty and navigating the new unknown world of either middle school or high school, trying to find where they belong. For some teenagers, divorce might not be something they emotionally can comprehend or even fully understand, while they are undergoing their current transition themselves. Providing a resource to your teenager might enable them to better organize their emotions and thoughts on the process. Below are a few suggestions to help your teen understand divorce and the changes that are about to occur in their lives.

  • Now What Do I Do?: A Guide to Help Teenagers with Their Parents’ Separation or Divorce

By: Lynn Cassella-Kapusinski

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  • Divorce Helpbook for Teens (Rebuilding Books)

By: Cynthia MacGregor

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  • The Bright Side: Surviving Your Parents’ Divorce

By: Max Sindell

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Disclaimer: Please note that we have not read the suggested books above but have recommended them based on the synopsis and reviews.

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