Parental Alienation Syndrome (PAS) is the deliberate attempt by a parent to destroy the relationship between their children and the other parent. The alienating parent’s goal is to destroy the children’s bond with the other parent and establish themself as “the best parent.”
Parental Alienation Syndrome does not occur over night. It is a systematic process which ultimately results in the destruction of a child’s relationship with the other parent. Parental Alienation Syndrome is frequently observed in hotly contested child custody cases and it is important that parents and attorneys are vigilant as to the symptoms of PAS. Some of the signs of PAS include:
Negative statements about the other parent in front of the child or children. A parent who is exhibiting behaviors symptomatic of PAS will do their best to put the other parent in a negative light by making negative comments about the other in front of the children. This behavior results in the children mimicking the sentiments of the alienating parent.
Involving the children in the pending litigation puts parental alienation syndrome in court. A divorce or custody battle is a matter between two adults. Children should not be privy to the details of a battle between their parents and a parent who willfully exposes a child to such details is often attempting to tarnish the child’s relationship with their other parent.
Refusal to Co-Parent. Co-parenting is an integral part of raising a child and a parent who refuses to co-parent is often not concerned with the best interest of the child, but only destroying the bond.
A divorce or custody battle is already emotionally trying time for a child. A parent who inflicts the above behaviors is inflicting parental alienation syndrome, which will only increase the turmoil that a child goes through. If you believe that the other parent is exhibiting signs of parental alienation, please contact the Ramos Law Group, PLLC.
Understanding, Preventing, and Overcoming Parental Alienation™
We recommend that both parents learn about parental alienation syndrome as there are several levels and for the most part we are all guilty of PAS of some form. At our firm, we recommend that clients watch the “Welcome Back, Pluto” video by Dr . Richard A. Warshak which helps parents understand, prevent and overcome parental alienation (Warshak, Welcome Back Pluto).
How to Protect Your Family from Bad-mouthing and Brainwashing
He is also the author of “Divorce Poison” which is another guide to help a parents prevent and overcome parental alienation. If your spouse is bad-mouthing you to your children it is critical that you choose the correct approach in addressing the issue. Handling the issue poorly could lead to losing your children’s respect and affection (Warshak, Divorce Poison).
This title offers specific advice to protect children from Parental Alienation Syndrome. In it, you will learn (Warshak, Divorce Poison):
How to respond when your children join forces with your ex
How to react if your children refuse to see you
How to answer rude and hateful behavior
How to insulate children from the harmful effects of bad-mouthing
How to identify and correct your own contributions to parent-child conflicts
How to defend against false accusations of brainwashing
How to choose the best therapist and lawyer
How reconcile with children after years of estrangement
Warshak, Richard A., Dr. “Divorce Poison: How to Protect Your Family from Bad-mouthing and Brainwashing.” Divorce Poison. Dr. Warshak, n.d. Web. 30 May 2013.
Warshak, Richard A., DR. “Welcome Back, Pluto Understanding, Preventing, and Overcoming Parental Alienation™.” Welcome Back, Pluto. Dr. Warshak, n.d. Web. 30 May 2013.
If you are the party awarded child support in Texas, you will understandably want to know when and how you will begin receiving child support payments. This is a multistep process as outlined below.
First, some basic information and terminology. The party awarded child support is known as the Obligee. The party ordered to pay child support is known as the Obligor. All child support payments must be paid to the Child Support Disbursement Unit located in San Antonio. Your final decree or order has a paragraph which states that any informal payments do not constitute as child support. If the money is not paid directly to the Disbursement Unit it is not being counted by the State as child support and the Obligor could be held in contempt for nonpayment. It is very important that all child support payments go through the State first.
First and foremost, if your spouse is agreeable to you relocating to another state with your kids, then you will be free to do. The divorce decree would have to specify that you are the conservator with the exclusive right to determine the primary residence without regard to geographic location or within a certain geographic area that includes the area to which you would like to relocate. Please keep in mind that an agreement with your spouse could include a geographic restriction that includes more than one place. For example, you could agree to a geographic restriction that says that…
If you and your ex reside within 100 miles of one another, the non-custodial parent can possess the children for a period of thirty days during the summer. The default dates for this period of possession are July 1 – July 31 but if the parent desires a different schedule, they must give the other parent written notice by April 1 prior to summer how and when they desire to schedule their allotted thirty days.
If you and your ex reside more than 100 miles away from each other, the non-custodial parent may have visitation with the children for a period of forty-two days during the summer.
You and your spouse have finally reached an agreement on all the terms of your Houston divorce thus completing the most difficult part of the divorce process. Although the most challenging part of your divorce is complete, there are still several steps that need to be taken to finalize your agreement. In every case, after an agreement is reached, a written form of your agreement must be submitted to the Court, along with several supporting documents. Additionally, one party must appear in front of the judge to ‘prove up’ the agreement.
A ‘prove up’ occurs when one, or both, parties appear before the judge to finalize their agreement.