Going through a divorce is difficult. Separating from someone who was once a major part of your life can be extremely daunting, to say the least. And the struggle is multiplied when you have children involved, mutual property and other factors that need to be worked out. It may be tempting to navigate the divorce […]
1. Make copies of all financial records. It’s very important to have an accurate picture of all your assets and debts. You’ll need to know all bank accounts, savings accounts, loan accounts, credit accounts, tax returns, etc. as all of these will need to be divided in your divorce. Having copies made before you actually separate from your spouse will save you the trouble of trying to track records down later.
Studies have shown that social networking sites, specifically Facebook, are a contributing factor to infidelity. Facebook allows for affairs to blossom; reconnecting old flames or allowing a person to become friends with someone they met in passing. If your spouse is spending a lot of time on social networking sites or is being secretive about their online activities, it may be a sign that they are engaging in an affair.
1. Having Unrealistic Expectations : The Texas Family Code will dictate many aspects of your divorce, including child support, custody and division of property. You will probably be awarded what is considered a fair and equitable division of the marital estate and you will probably be awarded or ordered to pay guideline child support. Expecting to take your spouse to the cleaners or having sole custody of the children, absent strong circumstances to support otherwise, is not likely to happen and you should focus on a reasonable resolution rather than “winning” your divorce.
Mediation is very popular as a method for settling divorce cases rather than going to trial and it has many proponents. But why should you attempt mediation rather than go forward at trial?
Marriage can be confusing enough on its own, but several states still have laws on the books that may make you scratch your head.
- In Kentucky, it’s illegal to remarry the same person four times.
- In Tennessee, a person may file for divorce on the grounds that their spouse made an attempt on their life by poison or other means showing malice.
Transfer of property
Your Final Decree of Divorce will include language awarding property to you and your ex, however that is not the final step in the process of awarding property. Make sure that, if relevant to your case, documents such as Special Warranty Deeds, Deeds of Trust or Powers of Attorneys are signed, notarized and filed with the proper entities. Don’t wait until an issue pops up down the road to discover that you never transferred the title to a piece of property, make sure it’s all handled quickly after your divorce is finalized.
- Don’t involve the kids
Just don’t. Divorce is hard enough on children without added pressure or emotional blackmail coming from the parents. Don’t use your kids as pawns, don’t disparage your ex and don’t involve them in any pending litigation. It reflects poorly on you, your judge won’t appreciate it and it will have harmful effects on your children.
- Think before you call or email
Your family law attorney is there to guide you through the process of a divorce or family law dispute and understands that you are going to have questions about the process. But every communication with your attorney will result in being billed, so save your small questions for a weekly status email with your attorney. This does not mean you should avoid communicating important information to your attorney, just think twice before you send off a quick email asking for information that could be found elsewhere or saved for another time.