Posted by Mary E. Ramos | Divorce
Sometimes you can make it work. And sometimes you can’t.
Knowing when to get a divorce in Texas begins with some serious soul-searching. Oftentimes, people stay in a marriage long after they should. Maybe you still love your partner. Maybe you feel like they can change, and overcome their problems. Maybe you feel like a divorce would ruin your personal life or reputation. Maybe you’re afraid of being alone. Maybe you’re afraid of losing custody of the kids.
The decision to divorce must be yours, but, once you’ve taken that step, this is where Ramos Law Group shines: Our highly experienced divorce attorneys have a long record of winning cases. We can help you get a divorce with terms in your favor.
The Signs that Tell You When to Get a Divorce in Texas
- If your partner is physically, verbally, or psychologically abusive to you or your children, and you are too afraid to confront him or her, or you have confronted them already and they haven’t changed. In situations like these, you should also consider asking your attorney to file a motion for a protective order.
(You should get to a safe place if you are in danger. Here are some domestic violence shelters in the Houston area, some of which also serve men or LGBT spouses.)
- If your partner doesn’t love you, doesn’t show any interest in anything you do, or treats you as an annoyance or a needy pet.
- If you have stopped loving them, and can no longer give them the support, emotional availability, and enthusiasm they deserve.
- If your partner has a substance abuse problem or a financial problem that is destroying your family, won’t do anything to get help or change their ways, and the downward spiral is threatening your own safety and survival or that of your kids.
- If your partner has betrayed you in some way that you cannot forgive. Knowing when to get a divorce in Texas sometimes means being brutally honest with yourself, and admitting what your true limits are.
- If you’re only in the marriage for practical reasons, such as money or to keep the marriage together for the kids, and it is eating away at you.
- If the only thing stopping you from a divorce is fear of being sued and losing custody of your children or losing your cherished possessions.
Be Ready with a Plan for the Next Steps
Once you’ve decided to go ahead with a divorce, the best thing you can do is begin planning for a soft landing on the other side. In other words, the best answer to the question of when to get a divorce in Texas is: When you’re ready.
In practical terms, this means making financial preparations for all of your upcoming expenses, including potentially moving.
Prepare financially by building up some savings in a separate bank account that only you can access. You will have many expenses coming up. You’ll have to buy new things. And there will be legal fees too. Don’t just plan on putting it all on the credit card. This can trap you in a cycle of debt.
Spousal maintenance may be a possibility, but it isn’t awarded to everyone, and you will likely face significant expenses before it kicks in.
Knowing when to get a divorce in Texas means making practical plans. Where will you live? How will this affect your job? What about your health insurance and other forms of insurance? What will happen to the kids, the pets, etc.? What if you own a business?
You will need to come up with answers to all of these questions. Even if circumstances change and you don’t end up sticking to your plan, having a plan is very important.
Let Ramos Law Group Help
When it’s time to get a divorce in Texas, it’s time to get a divorce attorney too. Your attorney will do so much more than just help you with the legal paperwork. At Ramos Law Group, we will be your champion in the legal system. We will represent your interests in court and in mediation. We can help you with a contested divorce.
We have a record of winning divorces with favorable outcomes for our clients, and we can help you too. Contact us today to discuss your situation.
Last Updated on May 23, 2023 by Mary E. Ramos